Reclaiming the word ‘fat’ was the most empowering step in my progress. I stopped using it for insult or degradation and instead replaced it with truth because the truth is that I am fat and that’s ok. So now when someone calls me fat I agree whereas before I would get embarrassed and emotional.
I’m constantly thinking about what I’ll do next. I never count on music being a career of longevity. I mean longevity is key and I hope that it lasts but you just don’t know because it’s not in your hands you don’t make the decision.
I have no control over what people think of me but I have 100% control of what I think of myself and that is so important. And not just about your body but so many ways of confidence. You’re constantly learning how to be confident aren’t you?
I was born to be married. I just feel comfortable there. I love the idea of being partnered for ever. I love my girlfriend we’ve been best friends since I was 18. There’s not a thing we haven’t been through except for marriage… We’ve had talks about what we would name our kids since we were in our 20s.
For me the greatest revenge of all is having a happy adulthood waking up in my gorgeous turquoise bedroom in the morning beside a person who really inspires me. That’s the best revenge a girl-loving girl from the Bible belt could possibly have. And importantly it’s healthy.
When I was a teenager I would lock myself in the bathroom for hours bouffanting my hair like Patty Duke and trying to recreate Barbra Streisand’s flawless eyeliner only to comb it all out and wash it all off before stepping out into the world a butchish bisexual teen.
Do I ever think Gossip will be really massive in America? No I don’t think it’ll happen – and that’s fine. It’s kind of nice because I get to experience everything at once. I get to come home and it not be weird like in Paris or something. It is nice to be completely anonymous.
Olympia was a town crawling with music. I was new to the whole punk scene. The culture shock continued Olympia had bagels! We didn’t have bagels in Arkansas. You could order vegetarian food all over town! It was so crazy to me – a place with so many vegetarians the restaurants made special dishes for them?
Here is my prescription to heal all wounds. Watch the film ‘Funny Girl’ at least five times eat at least 45 chocolate bars and hang out with all those friends you blew off to hang out with your ex. I truly believe that through a combination of Nutella old pals and Barbra Streisand we can achieve happiness and very probably world peace.
When I am made fun of in the press I just remember those days when I’d come home to find that the water had been turned off because my mother couldn’t afford the bill. Suddenly everything feels easier.